Sketchbook pages 5 and 6. You can click on this photo or any of these I have posted previously to see more details.
Random Musings:
(Consider yourself warned... this may be more of a rant than a musing... just sayin'.)
I have had something on my mind since Friday and I just can't shake it. I'm going to tell you about it but first I want to say I am not complaining about a certain person, although this person has said a few insensitive things to me, my reason for mentioning this is for anyone who might say this or say something similar. Please don't.
I went out for dinner with about 10 of my fab friends on Friday evening. Cool restaurant, cool peeps, cool food. We were all seated at a VERY large oval table and even though you'd think it would be conducive to excellent conversation by all, the table was too big to accommodate that. So I was talking to a few friends at my end of the table and I was asked about my new puppy. I had had an extremely hard day with puppy body fluids and biting and jumping and such so I was animatedly telling my story of the hard day with puppy from hell. I was really hoping for some advice from anyone and my story was leading up to a request for ideas.
Right smack in the middle of my story, my one friend asks me if this is my first dog. Um, duh. NO. I have had multiple dogs for about 18 years and am an avid animal lover. She knew that but still had to ask. Then she says, "You need to have another kid."
I thought to myself... WHAT?? I'm sorry, I don't think I heard you correctly. Did you say I should have another kid? I just laughed it off and changed the subject but what I REALLY wanted to say was this:
First of all, I do not see how having another kid would REMOTELY help me with my puppy problems, in fact, if I were to follow that random advice my problems would only grow. Second, after I had my surgery for cancer 9 years ago, that option went right out the window. Third, I have consciously made the decision NOT to adopt a child as I now have numerous responsibilities with my nieces since my sister died. Need I go on?
I am only bringing this up because I have heard people say "You should have another kid" before. AND in other contexts, it still NEVER makes sense unless of course the intention is to bring the conversation around to their own journey of suffering. I don't get it. Do you actually think someone might gasp and grab onto that person and scream, "Yes, that is a really great idea! Thanks, I would have never thought of that!" Um, I don't think so.
Don't worry, my friend doesn't read my blog so she will never know how thoughtless her statement was. However, I brought this up because I am thinking about INTENTION and the words that people say. You never know how the things you say are going to sound to the person receiving your words. It is my intent to be more intentional in my own words... especially after this past Friday evening.
Weird. Totally random.
How about you? Has anyone ever said that statement to you?
Monday's Gratitude:
I am so grateful for an interesting conversation today.